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Finding Wisdom after Tragedy

Wanting to share with you some very good words from Cindi Rivera, MFT, another blogger and therapist here in Northern California. Words do often fail when we find ourselves in states of emotional and physical overwhelm. Part of the challenge is to resist isolating ourselves from one another no matter how much the pain and confusion cause us to want to withdraw inside of ourselves. Yet, in the allowing of difficult experiences to inform and adjust our expectations, perhaps it is possible that in doing so we may allow our overriding expression to that of love and compassion rather than hatred and and fear of the other.

Cindi writes:

“What do you have to say about what just happened?” My client asked me at the end of our session. She paused as I considered the question. Then she said “I’ll wait for your blog. I always look forward to your blog because you always say something really wise. Your words are so helpful.“

The truth of the matter is I had no especially wise words then, just after the tragedy – or series of tragedies – that had recently occurred.

And I still have no truly profound wise words. Just some simple ones.

Read the whole post here

Why “The Open Way”?

The author, Gerald May, who passed away in 2005, practiced medicine and psychiatry for twenty-five years before becoming a senior fellow in contemplative theology and psychology at the Shalem Institute for Spiritual Formation in Bethesda, Maryland. He was the author of many books and articles blending spirituality and psychology, including Addiction and GraceCare of Mind/Care of SpiritWill and Spirit, and The Dark Night of the Soul.  

Addiction and Grace and The Awakened Heart are particular favorites of mine.  I discovered his writings while attending the Episcopal School for Deacons in Berkeley, CA.

It is in the pages of The Awakened Heart that the following quote is found: “When we are really given to the why of life, the hows begin to flow.” 

He also wrote a little book called, “The Open Way – A Meditation Handbook,” as a resource to those wishing to explore contemplation and meditation. This and any of the books mentioned, may  be helpful for strengthening the life of the body, mind and spirit of the individual.